By Ethyl Chadwick
For about a year I wrote a column for the Messianic Times Online. I could select any topic, so I decided to write about relationships. It’s not that I’m an expert, but having been married 29 years I have picked up a few things along the way. Perhaps one day I will publish all the articles.
I will give a brief summary here. First of all, you can’t love another unless you love yourself. The Bible says “love your neighbor as yourself.” (Mark 12:31). So if you are unable to love yourself, you need to ask God to show you how He sees you. As you learn to accept and appreciate yourself, as you rebuke any self-bitterness or self-rejection spirits you may have entertained, then you will really learn to love yourself. And that’s when you will be ready for a romantic relationship.
I also wrote about pride. Dear brothers and sisters, it’s more important to be loving and kind than to prove that you’re right. Unless it’s a matter of life and death, sometimes you just have to let it go.
Also it’s so important to be a really good listener. Sometimes your spouse or significant other just needs to vent. Resist the temptation to offer advice or fix it, unless you are specifically asked for advice.
Lastly I will mention that it’s so important to build each other up, not tear each other down. Resist the temptation to correct, criticize or try to change your partner.
I will be happy to share more next time!
God bless you!