Advice for Couples

Ethel Chadwick
bagelsandblessings.com


Yesterday my husband and I attended a wedding of a dear friend. There was a sweet time during the reception when long-term couples were recognized. One such couple had been married 65 years! As my Mom would say (may she rest in peace), “Kenahora,” or “may the evil eye keep away.” I know, Yiddish has many strange expressions.

So the couple was asked what words would be good advice for the young couple who had just been married.

I’m thinking, the best words other than “I Love You” would be “I’m sorry!” Really, such important words must be remembered, right?

The husband said, with a twinkle in his eye, “make sure you have a good lawyer!” Oy vey, not the sweet encouraging words I was hoping he would say!

It got me thinking. What advice would I give to newlyweds? I would say it’s important to remember Ephesians 4:26: “Be angry, yet do not sin. Do not let the sun go down on your anger.” (TLV) I think this one is a no-brainer. Resolve your conflicts, repent, say I’m sorry, and forgive one another. Then you can sleep well.

I would also say encourage one another, always think the best of each other, and never, under any circumstances, complain about your spouse to others or share personal matters.

When Messiah dwells in you, He gives you grace and helps you to be kind, tender-hearted and humble. And most of all, He helps you forgive so that you don’t hold a grudge.
These are a just a few thoughts. I hope you find them helpful!


Blessings,

Ethel